Husband, partner, father… and caregiver

Finding a balance between work and parenting responsibilities is tough for anyone. For me it meant redefining myself as a dad and husband too. Overnight my priorities changed and I had a different perspective to life. We’re both 39 and couldn’t believe for one minute this was happening to our family. I felt guilt and asked why it couldn't be happing to me a day instead. Not to the mother of my children.

Seeing my wife passionate desire to fight cancer head-on, she would not let me see her break. So strong and a infectious positive attitude towards life that made me so strong. When she was diagnosed over a year ago, I was very fearful. But because we were in a fight for her life, I always said to myself, I must be the best possible version of myself I can be. Want to be a role model for my kids so they can remember that dad tried his best and live with no regrets. I made a decision that I was going to be who she needed me to be so that she could get better—whether that meant holding her hand, getting her medication, paying all the bills and paperwork (that’s another story) making sure she got to her appointments and keeping track of all the letters, calendars, school run, school dinners, childcare etc..” I was in charge for once…

And that’s what I did. For 14 months I dedicated myself to being her husband and her caregiver —and I was learning more than ever about cancer and the journey along the way. I kept notes on everything, because I knew that while she had amazing doctors and nurses, I was willing to contribute to her health, We even went vegan for a while and cut out dairy. Basically trying to live a healthier lifestyle. Even started running again! I wanted to dedicate myself in a way nobody else could. I found this the very rewarding as I could see that being in control gave her one less thing to worry about. Not to mention the 3 kids. Even they started to eat vegetables…